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Foremost, I mean this with respect. It is challenging phrasing something on disrespecting someone else without upsetting the main person, in my two cents, the chief causes.

When something falls, breaks, accept it as something that happens. Some swear, some complain, but others determine—from reason: first, what to do at the moment; second, how to prevent or lessen it happening again. Things will hit the fan; things will be misunderstood; little things will occur. Ultimately, bad things happen. The error is not in why, how or even that it still is happening; it is when we dwell on it. Besides, it is annoying repeatedly bringing it up. Accept that it fell. Move on.

Are there better things to discuss than the faults of others? That is easy. There are less shitty simpler minded topics to talk about: There are experiences, aspirations, funny personal quirks about yourself, etc. (Read somewhere, the best truly funny people make jokes about themselves—not others behind their back.) Anyway, the point is that there are better options, and there are also different options that can still bridge empathy, understanding and comradely.

Why do I care? When others complain, incessantly, about how someone else is not perfect for their job to other colleagues, that coworker has an ever bigger trouble. And down the line, I will have more on my plate than what should be. It may not be much more; I really don’t care. Except, words have affected her. Most gossip is useless.

The only meaningful question here is, will you change; will she change? Else, can you list three ways that loosely discrediting her will benefit anything? 

Should clean up the high-horse tone, the diction needs to best suit its audience, the length to something short, and what else?

Wrote this off of trying to write an introduction about being a Stoic. It has been circling my mind for a while. 

Though, this colleague will not get this message, it is a starting point for when this issue comes up again. It will happen. Expect it; do not necessarily accepting it.